My Dog Is My Baby And I Deserve To Be Treated The Same As Any Parent

Let me begin by saying this: I have a lot of respect for all hard-working parents and I love children.

I have four incredible nieces who I wish I could spend time with every day. Without question, they are the coolest, funniest girls I know, and Im not just saying that because they all can read!

That being said, I am just so sick of people saying that because I dont have human offspring, I am not a parent. I am the mom of a fur baby — a silky terrier named Tyrone who is seven pounds but feistier than a Rottweiler — and he is in every way like a child to me (he just so happens to have a lot more fur than human children).

Now, Im sure all of the parents out there reading this who dont have fur babies of their own are already firing up to write an angry comment directed at me about how I know nothing about parenting because I have a dog, and not kids. And they are wrong.

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Ive watched my sisters raise their daughters and I have been the supportive sibling and aunt along for the ride — the good, the bad and the very messy. Ive changed my fair share of poopy diapers, Ive been thrown up on and I sure as hell have gotten peed on, too.

Still, when I talk about Tyrone, and his needs, with the parents of children, I can see them start to mentally check out. Apparently Tyrones well-being isnt as important just because he is a dog.

Peopletell me that dogs and babies are two completely different things, and yes, thank you, Ive never noticed that one! The issue for me is not being considered a parent just because my child is of the four-legged variety.

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Tyrone came into my life when he was found on the side of the road, in the middle of atorrential downpour, by my sister Jess. He was soaking wet, shaking like a leaf, and he had the saddest eyes imaginable. How anyone could just leave him on the side of the road, where he easily could have been hit by a car, I still cannot fathom. The second I saw his face, I was in love, and there was no turning back.

I never had to change Tyrones diapers, I never went through the trials and tribulations of breastfeeding him, and I never suffered through sleepless nights because he was teething.

Still, that doesnt mean Tyrone has spent the last seven years just fending for himself. Every moment I am home is spent with Tyrone by my side. He makes messes like a child. He gets into fights with his six siblings (five crazy cats and one very docile senior dog) like a child. And he knows when he has done something wrong, and hell hide if he thinks hes in trouble.

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I bathe him, and he fights me tooth and nail about getting into the tub (he hates getting his ears wet). I feed him and we argue over whether or not hes allowed to eat cat food (for the record hes not, my best friend who is a doctor has told me that is a no no). I play with him five times a day in my yard because he is a growing boy who needs exercise. And I lay with him every night and tell him I love him.

I, too have sleepless nights, just like any parent. Tyrone regularly kicks me while hes sleeping, and he wakes me up when he changes from being the big spoon to the little spoon in my bed. He jumps on me every morning at 7 a.m. demanding food and attention.

I have heard it a million times: Tyrone is not my child because I didnt give birth to him, and its probably the silliest argument that Ive ever heard. Giving birth to a baby is not what makes someone a parent, though I am not discrediting how tough labor must be (go moms, that looksrough)!

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Dogs also arent considered babies because they can change owners. Sure, that is true, except children often also pass through many hands. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends and even complete strangers, take in children when their biological parents cannot care for them for any number of reasons. Would you say these people arent allowed to call themselves parents if they spend months, maybe even years, raising someone elses child?

There are also those who physically cannot have children, so theirdog,or cat (cats deserve love, too) becomes their child. Would you honestly feel right telling that person theyre delusional for loving an animal who has given them joy and purpose? Dogs can provide a deep sense of comfort, without speaking a word, that no child can.

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Yes, I leave my dog at home while I go to work, while it would never be acceptable to leave a young child home alone, but that is because they have different needs. Tyrone can manageon his own during the limited hours that he is without me or my boyfriend, but he mainly spends those hours asleep. Tyrone still misses me mind you he waits by the door for me and actually vibrates with excitement when I get home and I have a suspicion I miss him more than most people miss their kids.

Here’s the kickerabout being considered a second class parent: Not only do I not get the same recognition as parents, I dont get the same advantages to care for Tyrone as the parents of kids do.
Currently, Iwork for a dog friendly company, but I haven’t always been so lucky, and in the past, if Tyrone got sick, I would have had quite a hard time getting an entire day off from workto take care of him and take him to the vet. I imagine the response from most bosses for a request like that would be, Cant you take him on your day off — hes just a dog!

But would any parent wait to take their child to the doctor on their day off, if that day off wasnt for another four days? And the big difference between Tyrone being sick and a toddler being sick is Tyrone cant tell me what hurts.

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Similarly,pet parents don’t have the luxury of asking to leave early from the office to feed their animals (whereas most employers would never question an ask like this from the parent of a child) or time off in the vein of maternity leave to care for newly adopted fur babies.

Bottom line: For the most part, us parents of fur babies just don’t getthe understanding that we need to care for ourpets. Given the many hours I havespent training my own fur baby, caring for him and pouring every ounce of love I have into him, I can say without question that that’s just not right.

The day I do have human children, I honestly wonder if they would love me the way that Tyrone loves me. Is it wrong to call yourself a parent when you get such unconditional love? If I died tomorrow, Tyrone would probably be more lost than my boyfriend. And I think that goes to show just how much he needs me, like I need him.

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